Thanks to OD, we were able to look at old comments Liz posted.
We found this one particularly interesting:
Elisabeth said...
Oh and, XXX....I am truly sorry so many of you got burned. I feel like it is probably the same story I have heard from a few people already, and if so then yes you got burned badly. It sounds like "that person" was almost sociopathic in their ability to make people think they "needed" things that were really not dire needs after all.
April 12, 2010 12:43 AM
We'll start with the last letter she posted on Caringbridge and point out the LIES.
Liz States:
"The only "falsehood" was my use of his middle name instead of last. I did so to protect his privacy (which worked wonders) and it is the ONLY thing that could be considered dishonest or lacking candidness"
Elisabeth said...
Hello fab ladies. I just wanted to say how much we are loving getting to know all of you. Chris feels so thrilled that a "queerple" (his term....yes, it's for Queer Cripple") could be so accepted and loved on by a community who has no obligation or responsibility to do so. Considering that many of his lifelong friends have begun to drift further away the more it becomes apparent his recovery will be a long, maybe forever, process.......this is REALLY GOOD for him to have "fans".I came home today for 2 days so I can do laundry and catch up on all the crap I ignore while I'm at his apartment taking care of him. (My husband is with him for the 2 days) He says when I get back on Thursday night, he wants me to film a little thank you video message for the ladies here. April 13, 2010 5:45 PM
Keep in mind Liz and Russ did not have another home. They all lived in Chris's Apartment 24/7.
Elisabeth said...
Check it out gals, I used this "one click installation" software.......and only 6 hours later, I have a blog on Chris' site! http://care4chris.110mb.com/blog. He was lobbying hard to call it My Big Fat Greek Homo, but I went with My Brother's Keeper instead.
April 14, 2010 7:12 PM
We all know by now that Liz and Chris are not related. Liz copied and pasted the "Help for Havens" website that Chris' REAL family created for him. It is identical to the Caringbridge site.
Elisabeth said...
XXX, I am married to a totally fab man for 8 years=) He has been a Godsend helping with Chris. He does all of the literal "heavy lifting"! No kids but as soon as my hubby is done with grad school, we will be going at it like rabbits in hopes of progeny-producing! We have 2 dogs and 2 cats, all of whom I miss SOOOO MUCH when I am staying with Chris, but I get to see them during the couple days a week I go home so that's good. Hobbies......well for the last few months it seems like all I have done is participate in Chris' care and treatment. (No complaints!) But even before I wasn't that exciting.......I am a total major bookworm. And a news JUNKIE! Thank God for RSS feeds. I have everything from CS Monitor to TMZ! I sooo love that people here are Ramona Friendly. I can't tell you how much of my childhood was spent in the company of Ramona and Beezus=)
April 17, 2010 12:57 PM
Elisabeth said...
Just for clarification in case anyone thought to start planning for a virtual baby shower......my husband is on a break from grad school because of Chris' needs and care, and realistically will probably not start up again until 2010. Boo. My mom always says between our planning and Chris' only desire to parent beings of a feline nature, she should just give up on grandkids and become a shopping cart lady. Ok now I'm seriously going for that nap. Everyone have a great afternoon.......thanks for making me feel cared about/noticed AP!
April 18, 2010 4:38 AM
According to the State of Texas website, Russ is disabled. We are quite certain he was never in grad school. For those that were not aware, he is also a convicted child molester. He assaulted an 8 year old.
Elisabeth said...
Daisies, I need HELP & opinions & advice, and I need them on the quick.......Chris had an appt at the brack coumadin clinic today. They came out (where I was in the lobby) and told me his ptinr was ONE. So I'm thinking they'll add back the 1mg they took away from his M/W/F dose. He comes out with the papers in his hand, I look and indeed they say, go back to 6mg on M/W/F and stay on the 5mg the rest of the week. I talked to the clinic mgr to make sure I understood the new dosage........then took him to starbies and then home.After a few minutes at home just now, he says "so I hope that loading dose they gave me will sort out my ptinr"Of course this is the first I've heard of this. I asked him what the aitch he was talking about & he said at the clinic they asked him if he had taken his regular coumadin dose today and he said no.......so they told him to SKIP the regular dose today and take the loading dose of 12mg there.The only problem is that Chris was WRONG, he HAD already taken his 5mgs of coumadin at 10am today, and nobody at the clinic thought to double check or ASK ME, the person whom they *know dispenses all of his medications.So NOW the boy has had 17mgs of coumadin in 4 hours. I am freaking *out.I called right away and bitched at the clinic mgr, as I have mentioned to him that while Chris may look great and has made incredible strides, his brain is still severely injured and he, the mgr, should always always *always check with me, my husband, or my mom when it comes to any answers or info provided by Chris.Now I'm scared to death Chris is going to sneeze and all of his blood will come flying out. I asked them if we should bring him tothe ER or even back to the coag clinic.......but they insisted he would be fine as long as I watched him carefully. Any medical professionals (XXX, you could not BE any higher in our Book of Awesome, but if you have an opinion?? I'd be so so grateful) who want to weigh in? I'm scared the clinic mgr is down playing this because they scared their error could really hurt my brother.Sorry to rant but am very nervous about this........=(
This comment just pisses us off. Who goes on the Internet when they are really in a medical crisis? Claudia (Chris' Mom) has stated to numerous people that Liz and Russ did not properly care for Chris. We believe it. This is classic attention seeking behavior, in our humble opinion.
LETS MOVE ON.....
Liz also states on her last Caringbridge post; "I did not ever ASK for help from anyone except MckMama- and I had only asked her to post a prayer request on Twitter."
Elisabeth said...
Hi ladeeeeez!!I'm home for one night as I *must do laundry. Both asking my brother to borrow a pair of his tighty whities and then febreze'ing a dirty pair of my own when his did NOT FIT...both go in the White Trash hall of fame. I'm going back tomorrow to go to dr trestor's with Chris........his posturing and uncontrollable violent shaking is just getting impossible to deal with. Thanks to the person who sent the donation which is allowing us to make this visit. It was so sweet and unexpected.......and could not have come at a better time. Speaking of......I was trying to think of a project I could do to quickly help with June's expenses. He starts getting his SSDI in July so June will be the last month where his expenses are such a huge burden for us. Anyway, I was thinking of doing one of those hardback books you can make yourself at wallgreens for like $12...a book of "the wisdom of daisies". I thought I could sell them for maybe $16.....What do y'all think? I am not only open to fundraising ideas, I am begging for them!! If you can think of any project I might be able to turn around quickly.....please let me know!!Thanks for letting me bitch & whine these last few days. I have been so overwhelmed with Chris' backpedaling progress and resulting extreme frustration.I feel hopeful about his appt with dr trestor tomorrow.....he isn't one of Chris' neuro or stroke doc....he's a family doc/general physician. He really cares about our family and I really hope he will be creative if necessary and just do something to *help my poor brother. His side is purple and bruised because his left arm/hand (which is closed into a tight fist) shales so violently and flails around, he hits himself in the side and stomach. It is so powerful, I usually can't hold him back without him hitting ME, and now he won't even let me try to hold his arm back because he feels so guilty for accidentally belting me a couple times.Please everyone who is inclined, say a prayer that tomorrow will bring some much needed reflief for Chris. Wah-hooo...24 finale!!
May 24, 2010 8:01 PM
A couple of things to point out: 1. Chris' Dad paid for all therapy. No donations went to this per Chris' Mom. 2. Liz knew at this point that Chris was going back to live with his Mom mid-June so she is getting desperate.
Elisabeth said...
Hello my lovely loveleez. I see we're all still debating intelligently, still white trash, and still gargantumongously pregnant. Collectively, we're a whole season of Judge Judy. THANK YOU times infinity plus 5 to the 3 sweet daisies who sent donations today. Chris was out of some medication this morning and *would have run out of more this weekend.......but thanks to you precious ladies and your sacrifices on my brother's behalf......we were able to pick up everything from walgreens and medsavers that was filled,It had been a super rough few days. Chris has started to have sone type of separation anxiety from me and doesn't want anyone but me to care for him. I had to sit down and explain to him that my current schedule of 5/7 days pet week already has me stretched to the limit emotionally and physically. I guess this is the down side to re establishing our BFF relationship that we had before I got married and he started working so hard. It was brutal to have him ask, but I thought we had so much fun cutting up and raising hell..?? I explained it was just the physical harshness of sleeping on a 15 yr old couch for so many days and missing my dogs......and my husband, who is Chris' 2nd choice is always there on the 2 days I'm not there. I told him I love him dearly and will forever be grateful for just the CHANCE to care for him given his initial prognosis of certain death......but that I can't sacrifice my marriage for him. He grudgingly agreed to have mom stay some nights and a couple of friends stay the odd night. Please pray that I can stick to my guns about these decisions and that we can skate through the month of June financially. July, our exodus from these crushing financial pressures.......*cannot come quickly enough.Thank you again to a certain preggo and a certain eloquent equestrienne and a *certain owner of a redneck cat toy.......for easing that burden a bit today. I thank God every day for leading me through the valley to the River Vile!!
May 28, 2010 10:04 PM
Liz stated only 2 donations came in after the huge rush. This comment states otherwise.
Elisabeth said...
XXX......Chris says even tho he is *so not in the mood to be poked, he can't resist a-pokin' from his best flouse. (that's Fake Lesbian Spouse for the uninitiated)We went over to the folks' this afternoon before heading back to the apartment and it was a brutal, brutal talk. Everything we suggested (like trying to get in a group care a few days a week, trying to find a different apartment so that hubs & I can *both be there and not forced to spend so little time together) he immediately shot down without even a slight consideration toward compromise. I know he has had to give up SO much and that his life is unrecognizable now.....but telling him that he was going to *have to compromise so hubs & I can work (doing something that actually pays) was still harder than I thought. I really don't think he had considered that while we have been putting ALL of our financial resources toward HIS needs.......we've obviously been neglecting our own. Which is fine.....we made a decision to put his needs first and abided by it until there was nothing left to allocate. But I guess I thought he would realize that *eventually we were going to have to go back to actual paying jobs. It was like we were telling him someone had died, or some other shocking and devastating news. He totally freaked at the thought of adult day care......his eyes immediately filled with tears and he had the most pathetic, broken hearted face as he croaked out "DAY care..?? You would put me in DAY CARE??"Oh it was hideous. I love him so much, we ALL do....and truly wish I could give in to his every whim, let him stay in his happy little sunny apartment and keep taking care of him with my mom and my hubs.....have him keep kicking butt in physical & occupational therapy. That would be great. And unfortunately I really think this is the way he thought things would be. Today was a harsh eye opening for him and a wrench of a heart breaker for me and the rest of us.I'm still hoping that we can make it to July because while the SSDI money won't be a cure all, it'll be a "fix a hell of a lot".I feel like all I ever do here is bitch about the difficulties of this situation. I know it must get tired and by this point I must sound like the teacher from Peanuts. But please know that you all are my sounding board and the pillow my ass lands on when my feet get ahead of my brain (often) and I really and truly appreciate *every single one of you. XXXX......I am so sorry for the troubles you are dealing with. I don't know a lot about fungal pneumonia but I know it is often crippling to your breath in both intensity and frequency of respirations. I hope you are receiving quality medical care and that progress will be swift and complete.
May 31, 2010 2:16 AM
We know from multiple sources that this is in fact a conversation that went the other way meaning it was finalized that Chris would move back in with his Mom and Liz and Russ would be kicked out of Chris's apartment. Furthermore, Liz and Russ did not have jobs prior to the stroke. These are all lies!
Elisabeth said...
XXXXX......I have mentioned this but not in awhile so don't feel bad.....it doesn't make sense for Chris to live with us because of two main reasons. The first being, we only have a small 1 BR bungalow, the tiny 2nd room was walled out for more living space by the previous people. There's just nowhere to put him. Second, we sold our car when he was in-patient for post ICU rehab. It was $1,000 per day and after selling HIS car and liquidating his savings there was still not nearly enough. Thank God he had never sold his old Honda, we use it for all of his appointments even tho it's a bitch for him toget in/out of, poor thing. Anyway, his apartment is literally RIGHT next to the 38th st medical district. We have his GP, main neuro, both pharmacies, occupational therapy, & physical therapy all within a stone's throw. If we DID have room at my place (or if my parents' home wasn't such that he simply cannot navigate it with stairs everywhere) then we no doubt would have moved him out already. But seeing how difficult travel is on him.....even just 20-25 miles, it's good that we're so close to all the people and places he has to visit everyweek.Nobody in their 30s would want daycare. But I think it's especially scary for him because cognitively he IS "mostly there". Although he has some memory issues and sometimes can't see the forest for the trees, he can and does still talk about politics, the economy, animals, movies, ect. We're not even sure we could get him a placement in adult day care because he *is so "there" mentally.I really think if we can just make it to July, we'll "make it", period. His apartment and meds are the biggest expenses and thank God, his monthly SSDI will cover them both.Because of being so "high functioning" mentally (especially compared to where he was immediately post-coma) so far he has not qualified for any care services. As soon as his Medicaid starts in July, he will start getting 3 days a week of home health care. If we can keep him in his place this month......that is going to seem like freaking CHRISTMAS!! ("only" having to split up 4 days a week with mom & hubs)I feel like such a bitch for writing yet another novel when we are giving notice to one of the most somber "holidays" we have......thank you Veterans and Veterans families......but also the impending arrival of La Petite XXXX! (I know it's because of emergencies that women in labor can't eat. But can't they give y'all TPN or something?? It seems so barbaric to force a women to engage in the most calorie-burning activity *ever.....with no rehydration or food)Anyway ladeeez......if Chris' video didn't make you check your blood pressure, then maybe my self indulgent rants will. I can't believe I had to watch my brother, a short while ago a strapping 6 ft tall man in his 30s....weep as he realized adult day care might be a possibility. If 2 minutes in the CVS blood pressure chair can save you or someone you love from being on either side of this fence......please God, do it.May 31, 2010 12:11 PM
Liz and Russ never had a bungalow nor did they have a car they sold to help pay for expenses for Chris. They actually used Chris's car during all this time.
OK, enough drama for one day. I'm literally sick to my stomach reading some of it. There are so many details to this scam so please be patient as we try and update more freqeuntly. We have over 80 pages of comments to go through.
Thank you again to OD and the countless individuals who have come forward and helped us with this endeavor.
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